"Am I justified in leaving without notice the second my toxic boss told me to work over 9 hours in one day because she wouldn’t be flexible . . .?"
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Am I justified in leaving without two weeks notice given when they told me my salary would be one number but ended up being another (almost 25k less) because they “made a mistake offering the higher one to me”?
Am I justified in leaving without notice the second my toxic boss told me to work over nine hours in one day because she wouldn’t be flexible and move a 1:1 that was originally Friday to the same day, without zero notice and telling me “You’re salary, so it’s fine”?
Thank you for creating a comfortable environment to discuss.
Here’s the thing that we don’t talk about. You are rarely, if ever, required to give two weeks notice. Your employer would appreciate it. Sometimes they put it on documents stating that that’s the standard time they accept for notice. Some jobs request longer. But no one can make you report to work for that time period. It’s not a law. It’s a courtesy.
If you don’t want to stick it out those two weeks because toxic people don’t deserve two more weeks of your life even if they’re paying you for it, then don’t. If your mental health will be better served by saying “byeee” and moving on to whatever is next, then I support you in that decision. Internally, it might be considered a termination for job abandonment because their rules say you have to give two weeks, but most likely, that’s just going to put you on no re-hire status.
Let’s be honest, did you want to be re-hired anyway? We make a big deal out of clean, well executed breaks from companies because it’s the “professional” thing to do, but abusing you wasn’t professional and they were allowed to do that so…. do you.
You’re not breaking the law. You might make Emily Post a little upset. I think we can deal with that.
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